Because we just don’t know………….
Criticise, condemn or complain.
We all interact with other people. We have to do this to communicate. For some though, communicating with others, particularly with strangers or people they are not yet familiar with, fills them with almost dread because they are perhaps shy or self conscious.
However there may be a multitude of different reasons altogether.
Consider this for a moment:-
We all go through challenges in our lives from time to time and of varying degrees of complexity of challenge. Life is full of challenging events for everyone. Some unique to only one. The commonality in all though is our attitude to those challenges and everything we do.
It is the quality within our years here that matters, not counting the quantity.
An attitude of gratitude for what we are and have, always determines the outcome of those challenges and ultimately our life journey.
Some have ‘stuff’ put at them or on them through no fault of their own either by circumstance, death of a loved one, loss of job, financial crash, breakdown of relationship or by the wrong doing of others. When this happens the materialistic things can be repaired, sometimes quickly and be rebuilt. If a person gets wiped out financially, they can start again. If they made it once they can make it again.They can do this because they know how to.
If they lose their job, break from a relationship, yes it no doubt hurts, but that circumstance also brings with it opportunity. Every action creates an equal or opposite reaction. Every seemingly hopeless situation has within it that seed of equivalent greatness. One just has to look for it, because it will be there. The opportunity lies within the situation that is not always obvious, but is there. A job loss can lead to new horizons, starting a business, do what you have always wanted to do but not had the opportunity until now.
Obviously, the death of a loved one can take longer to heal because of the grieving process that may be apparent straight away and will require the natural individualistic need of time to recover or the grieving may not be clear from the outset and kicks them at a belated time.
Whatever the challenge, you may find yourself in a mental ‘fog’ following the event that takes time also to clear before the coherence of normal rational thinking prevails.
However, when someone is perhaps somewhat curt with you, consider this; I know its not me, so what might it be that is bothering them? They could be screaming inside over something that is making them feel pretty awful at that time. We simply don’t know what they are going through or dealing with.
Likewise lets not take for granted with someone that is seemingly strong and confident on the outside, they too may be screaming on the inside living through their own individual challenge(s), living through a personal nightmare albeit perhaps temporary and their way of dealing with it is to mask their inner feelings outwardly to show a strong and confident individual. Of course they might well be like that ordinarily and they continue with their usual outward demeanour. They might be a very personal individual that does not do ‘feelings’ very easily.
We all have to interact to exist so we should be the best that we can be at doing it.
We each have a personal responsibility to interact with each other in a respectful and correct manner. The eternal progress of each and every one of us is enhanced when we interact correctly with our fellow human beings.
The bottom line is we should never take for granted people around us.
Life is not necessarily easy for a lot of people people, and we all go through times of sadness, concerns and fears at some point, so when it is not our turn in this situation, yes it is easier said than done; but we should never, or at least try our very best to; not criticise, condemn or complain. Why? Because we simply just don’t know; what someone else is going through.